Thursday, October 30, 2014

adoption story: cory and kelly

Cory and Kelly know about adoption. They adopted their first son and Kelly works in the field.

But that doesn't make the task of adoption any less daunting. Adding to your family, even if you've done it before and happen to be an adoption professional, is just as emotional and exciting.

And that was exactly the story God had in store for this family; an emotional and exciting adoption journey with some unexpected twists and turns, unexpected delays, and ultimately, unexpected blessings.


Two sweet boys who know the joy of being wanted, sought after, and unconditionally loved. And two parents who are blessed by their joyful presence in their lives and family.




Wednesday, October 29, 2014

on brokenness and slowing down

I broke my foot way back in August.


I wish I had an amazing story of athleticism (I was mountain climbing and fell down a crevasse) or heroism (I pushed an elderly lady out of the way of oncoming traffic) but I've got nothing. The truth is way more boring. I ran a few miles one day and later that night felt like I pulled something. Then on a run a few days later the pain came back so much I couldn't finish my run and ended up limping a mile back home. Little did I know that I probably developed a stress fracture a few days before and then completely broke my calcaneus (heel) on my next run.

But at first I thought I had simply strained a muscle and had doctors advice to walk on heels for the next few days (yay for some new wedges!) But after weeks of pain, x-rays, an MRI, and even a second opinion, I was placed on non-weight bearing orders and given crutches and a scooter. (You heard me right - I have a scooter complete with a basket that I refuse to attach for reasons of pride. When practicality takes over I will let you know.)

So I am currently going on week 12 of a broken foot, extremely limited mobility, and fairly intense pain. And all I can tell you is this what not in the plans.

It's been rough. Crutches take an incredible amount of strength and agility I quickly learned I don't really have. Limited mobility has really put a kink in my style. And now we're moving across town in two and a half weeks.

Are. you. kidding. me.


When you can't walk you can't do things you otherwise take for granted.

Everything takes double the time and energy.

You have to ask others for help.

When you can't walk to you have to slow down.


The bottom line: when I haven't been able to walk I've had a chance to stop and listen to God. And to be honest, I haven't liked what he's been telling me lately.

My M.O. is multi-tasking, efficiency, and independence. And for the past 12 weeks all of that has been absolutely wrecked. I'm in a space in life where I am literally needing to sit down and hear his voice: Slow down. Take time to notice. Be thankful for the mundane. Allow others to be a blessing to you. When everything in me wants to be able to move faster, do more, and rely on my own strength, a good God takes my circumstance to remind me of the good news.


He gives sweet gifts that are all around for me to notice.

Taking the time to invest in the eternal is valuable.

Giving others the opportunity to graciously serve me is humbling and necessary.


And slowing down enough to recognize that my brokeness always leads to more of his glory.




Monday, October 27, 2014

national adoption month discount

Fall is upon us and the end of the year is just around the corner. Maybe earlier in the year you told yourself there was something that was going to happen this year - you wanted to adopt.

Maybe you got busy. Maybe you didn't know where to start. Whatever the case, there is still time to get the ball rolling in this calendar year, and we want to help by making it a more affordable!


Christian Adoption Consultants is offering a 10% discount on all it's full service domestic consulting packages October 29th through November 7th. Any new families who sign on during that window will receive 10% off the full service package. (This discount does not apply to the Do It Yourself Program and may not be combined with any other discounts). We only offer discounts like this a few times a year - don't miss out!

I'm eager to help you walk through the entire adoption process! For a glimpse of other family's stories who took the step to adopt, click here.


Want more info on Christian Adoption Consultants?  Click here.
What does it mean to hire an adoption consultant?  Click here.
Want to get started or get an info packet?  Click here.
What if you have more questions?  Click here.


Have friends who are thinking about adoption? Make sure you share this post! 

Email me at susan@christianadoptionconsultants.com for an application and information packet.

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

because ONE matters [a shop intro and a giveaway]

Kerry and her husband, Denny, adopted through Christian Adoption Consultants early this summer. You can find the story of God's faithfulness to their family and their son's adoption here. And since Toby joined their family, their heart for adoption has expanded even more. Read more about how they are choosing to help other families on their adoption journeys...

Hello beautiful people!

My name is Kerry and I am so appreciative to Susan for allowing me to share my heart in this space today. We are CAC alums and we brought our little boy, Toby, home just a few months ago.


Before bringing Toby home we researched fundraising options and my husband and I always loved the idea of selling t-shirts to raise money for our adoption. We looked at some online tee companies but never really loved the designs plus we kind of liked the idea of printing our own. So a few months before we found out about Toby's situation, when we were still waiting, we ordered a screen printing kit and started playing around with and learning about screen printing. We had a lot of fun with it but then things with Toby happened so fast, we never got around to actually making any shirts.

On our way home from Florida, where Toby was born, we talked about the press and the other supplies we had in our house and what we should do with them. We decided we wanted to start a little business and help another family on their adoption journey.


One thing we learned from our journey to get Toby is that even though the adoption journey can feel lonely at times there is a large adoption community (online and in our churches) and they are some of the most generous people on the planet. We literally could not have adopted Toby if it had not been for so many generous people. With that in mind, we decided that as a family we wanted to come alongside another adoptive family and support them on their adoption journey. We decided we wanted to walk with them until their child came home. And we wanted to tell their story and pray with them and just be with them on their journey.

livi joy is the small business that was born out of this. Livi is what we call our oldest daughter, Alivea - the one who stole our heart 6 years ago when she joined our family through adoption. I had no idea how adoption was going to change my life when she was born. I had no idea how adoption was going to draw me closer to Jesus. And now it's our family business - standing with another family because ONE matters. We believe that. We believe that ONE family, ONE orphan, ONE child matters.



Within a few weeks of coming home we found out about the Ludwig's, a super sweet family from Alabama who had answered the call to step out on their adoption journey. Their story was a lot like ours. A step of faith with no safety net. Just wanting to be obedient.


We have developed a friendship with the Ludwig's and it is our desire to bless them on their journey and walk with them until their little one is in their arms.

We opened our shop two months ago and have been designing and selling tees to benefit the Ludwig's adoption fund. A large portion of the sale from every tee goes directly to them.

Today, we are giving one away. There are so many ways to enter. Simply use this entry form to be entered to win a tee of your choice.


To read more about our family please visit here. And thank you so much, Susan, again for allowing me to share my heart today.

Monday, October 20, 2014

another family reunion

It's become a tradition now. For the third year I opened my home to my adoptive families. Although most were from the KC metro area, several traveled from out of state. We shared a meal, lots of laughter, and extraordinary stories. But it's so much more than gathering to eat and catch up. It's become a family reunion.


My families are all connected through a private Facebook group. Throughout the year and throughout their journey's they share their stories, encourage each other, and pray specifically for each other. We have an opportunity to hear as a family meets their expectant birth mother for the first time, pray when the unexpected twists and turns come, and celebrate as babies are welcomed into their forever family. Families close by geographically gather for BBQ's, we watch babies take their first steps and grow up, and advice and encouragement is given on diapers, hair care, and what adoption looks like as their children grow.


What's become even more of a tradition is how I lose it in my kitchen each year. Fifty plus people all gathered in our small kitchen and living room. As as I welcomed each one into our home, met precious babies I had personally prayed for, and looked at each face before we blessed the meal, tears easily came to my eyes. I knew each family's story there that day. How they prayed and dreamed and cried and worked toward their adoption. I knew the hours they spent on paperwork. I knew the sacrifices they made in their budget. I knew the story of their birth mothers. 


I knew each family in my living room that day represented God's amazing faithfulness to them as they stood with babies in their arms.


And I lost it. As I was thanking God for the food and the sweet families gathered in our home, I couldn't get past the lump in my throat.

God does more than create one family through adoption. He creates friendship, an extended family, and a community. And I'm honored to be a small part of it.

Here's a glimpse into our afternoon, our celebration, and the stories of some of my families. After you watch you'll know why I was near tears all day...


A special thanks to HiNoon Media for filming our family reunion and capturing these stories. Breanne is a dear friend and a popular mommy vlogger. Subscribe to her channel - you won't be sorry.

Friday, October 17, 2014

bathtubs and birthmoms {talking about adoption with a 2 year old}

My brother and his wife became foster parents the fall of 2012. Literally days after becoming licensed, Tim and Meg brought this sweet little guy into their home. In the coming months I'll post more about Jacob, his amazing life, and how he became a part of our family. But for now I wanted to share this post from my amazing sister-in-law, Meg. 

We're thrilled that Tim and Meg will soon be adopting Jacob. Although Jake was placed with Tim and Meg through foster care, they share an incredible open relationship with his birth mother and extended family. I have watched them love her well: honoring her with updates about Jake, meeting up for playdates, and assuring her that she will always be spoken of with love and care in their home. They have promised her that Jake will always know his story and of her love for him.

Earlier this week, Meg had the first of many conversations with her son and made good on those promises. Who knew that a chat during bath time could turn into the foundations of many many more conversations to tell Jake about his adoption, his story, and his birth mama...




He was in the bathtub happy as a clam. In the middle of all of his splashing and playing, he burst out, “My mama!” This isn’t uncommon as he often does this when he meets new people or when I pick him up from daycare. He wants everyone to know that I’m his mama. To be honest, it melts me every time. This particular time it melted me as usual and I said back, “And you’re my son!”
However, right after I was surprised to hear myself say, “Did you know that you have two mamas? Pretty cool, huh?” He looked at me a little confused but agreed by nodding his head and replying, “Cool!” I elaborated and said, “You were inside your other mama’s tummy!” He giggled, looked at his tummy and said, “Eww! In tummy!?” I giggled back and said, “Sure were. And that mama’s name is _____.” He then repeated me by saying her name.
I encouraged him to get out of the tub so that I could show him a picture in his room. It was one of the quickest times he’s ever got out of the tub! Upon getting to his room I brought down a picture frame with a sweet photo of his birth mama and him as a baby. I repeated to him again, “Mama _____.” He then pointed at the lady in the picture holding him and said, “Mommy.” Before tears could come down my face I said, “Yep! That’s your mommy who you were in her tummy. Then a little bit after you were born you came to live with this mama.” As he pointed at me, he said, “Yea! My mama!”
I know it’s only the first of many, many conversations yet to come. I also realize that these conversations will probably continue to get deeper and harder for him. There will be questions. Questions, that many, we won’t have the answer to. Part of me wishes it could just stay this simple of one mommy gave birth and the other mommy raised you. But that won’t be enough as he grows and discovers more. It’s daunting, really.
What I do know, though, is that God made him for a purpose. If he grew in my tummy, he wouldn’t be uniquely him. He had to grow in her tummy to become who God designed him to be. On the flip side, he was meant to be our son too. We will instill in him many other unique characteristics that come from nurturing. Without the both of us in his life, he wouldn’t become who he’s meant to be. I pray he learns to appreciate and understand that…

You can find Meg's original post here and read more about their foster to adoption journey.

Thursday, October 16, 2014

adoption story: mitch and jenn

Mitch and Jen look back on their adoption story and call it a faith journey. And it was a journey that when they started, they honestly had no idea what they were getting into. They could have never anticipated the unexpected delays, the ache of the wait, and the emotions of being presented to numerous birth families.


But they could have never anticipated the blessings.

Here's a glimpse into their hearts as they began this journey. This is taken from their profile book they wrote for their birth mother to read as she was choosing an adoptive family:

We do not know your story or the circumstances that have brought you to this time and to this moment as you read about us. Even though we do not know much about one another, there are some things we do know. We do know that you are being noble.  We know the path you have chosen is not a simple one; it is full of emotion, concern, and love for a little life. We do know you are creating a new path, the beginning of new story for your little one.  It is our greatest desire that you know that we will love this baby with all the love we possess, and that we will communicate how much YOU loved them from the start and how much you continue to love. We are excited to be a part of this new life. Despite not knowing each other’s stories until now, together we will get to share in this new story! 
To be quite honest, we feel like two of the luckiest people in the world. Already, the Lord has blessed us with good health, a fantastic family, wonderful healthy kids, great friends and financial stability. We know that all of these things are gifts. We see them as such and ourselves as the stewards of them. We don’t feel like our family is complete with the five of us. When faced with how to add to our family, we are most excited about the path which involves adoption. The idea of supporting a mom who must make the heart wrenching decision to entrust her child to another family is one that we take very seriously, and desire to be a part of in a way that brings peace to her and ultimately bless her child in ways beyond her wildest imagination through our love, care and journey of life. We view adoption as the perfect way to both add to our family, and share some of the wonderful things the Lord has given us. We can’t wait to welcome a little boy or girl to our household to love, protect, and pour out our lives into, just the same as those biologically born to us.  

A birth mother read those words just last month. And suddenly all of the months before made sense...

When Mitch and Jenn began the process, they had specific plans and timing in mind. With everything prepared, Jenn thought the summer would be the perfect time to welcome a little one into their family. They were presented time and again to birth families and not chosen. Their timing seemed to be off and discouragement set in. But Mitch and Jenn knew God had called them to adoption and were confident in God's plan, even though it didn't seem to be aligning with theirs.

Then they heard about a situation that seemed to be more than they could handle. But something about this expectant mother stood out to them and their hearts were drawn to her and her little one. Though a series of events only God could orchestrate and much prayer, they were presented to her. She read Mitch and Jenn's heart for adoption and family and chose them to raise her daughter.


Just over a week ago, this little one joined their family. And it only took a moment for their entire story to make sense. The waiting, the times they weren't chosen, the countless hours of fervent prayers...all were wrapped up in this precious bundle. Their daughter was meant to be in their family from the beginning. 

God knew all along that all of the "no's" they had heard were really a resounding "yes" for this girl to be theirs.


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